Ever since I have done my bachelor, this question has come to me as an arrow which I was bound to get injured by. I kept saying that I am busy doing my masters but I surely can guess this answer were never enough for their satisfaction because even my own parents were not satisfied with the answer.
Although they all are logical with their dissatisfaction, Master's in any curricular does not need a full concentration in it. People are allowed to go into a low profile job which will allow him to continue rest of his study and earn some money at the same time. That sounds great as that is the best and most standard way for a bachelor. Moreover people always fall for best things and when one gets failed to achieve one of those best possible way-out, people start to put him on the ordinary list.
I don't have any grudges to remain ordinary. However it seems the society has many problem in me remaining ordinary. Questions like "are you mad you want to be ordinary when there are many out there making their fortune?", "do you not have a goal in life? how come you never had one?" and many more were ready in there mind to throw out. About that I admit that it was my bad i struggled choosing one so far. Perhaps that is why I may deserve to remain one of those ordinary people who dies without making any remark.
There are examples where the goal of an infant was chosen by its parents or grandparents in the very day it is born. On the other hand it is I who still confused about his career and thus ended up in a path which has many other confusing paths to add up the confusion I already have. Truth is, both the ways have hard consequence. In the former fact, the infant may end up not liking the forced career and may falter in the middle of his academic years. If he survives the pressure then its okay but what if he doesn't? Then comes the confusing and not-having-a-goal type of career. What good can I say about that when there is nothing such? It is like shooting an arrow in the dark and waiting to see where it goes knowing the fact you cannot see.
In my opinion, picking a career should not be done without taking proper time and thinking. No matter who is taking the decision, whether the parents or the pursuer himself, it should go through some thinking and time. However this time is not supposed to be longer than the period within which a kid passes his eight standard. This is because, a kid as well as his parents come to know much of his type of interest and passion. If the child struggles then I think parents or relatives should come forward and put their choices on the table to help him. Now if the parents and relatives are also get failed to help him finding a suitable career path at that crucial point of time, I think they lose their right to ask career related question from right there.
I don't know if my words are sounding selfish or not. Our parents do a real hard work while they raise their kids. who are we to say which right they lose and which they stand? even I, the writer of this blog, is no dad or something like that! They are parents, they can do whatever they want to their kids and whatever they want to ask they can ask. yes! They do indeed and no one can change this prophecy. In fact, as a son I would like to have this prophecy unchanged as well. I believe there should not be any kind of boundaries between kids and parents and this is how it is best. Love does make human do a lot of things and our parents also love us and they may have asked those awkward questions about our not being productive out of that love which has no boundaries.
At the end I would like to add that If god wills and I ever become a father I will try my best not to ask my kids such question and force them to say " Please don't worry! Allah the greatest will come up with the best and I may need more time for that", knowing this good words will hurt them as equally as it is hurting me today.
I don't know if my words are sounding selfish or not. Our parents do a real hard work while they raise their kids. who are we to say which right they lose and which they stand? even I, the writer of this blog, is no dad or something like that! They are parents, they can do whatever they want to their kids and whatever they want to ask they can ask. yes! They do indeed and no one can change this prophecy. In fact, as a son I would like to have this prophecy unchanged as well. I believe there should not be any kind of boundaries between kids and parents and this is how it is best. Love does make human do a lot of things and our parents also love us and they may have asked those awkward questions about our not being productive out of that love which has no boundaries.
At the end I would like to add that If god wills and I ever become a father I will try my best not to ask my kids such question and force them to say " Please don't worry! Allah the greatest will come up with the best and I may need more time for that", knowing this good words will hurt them as equally as it is hurting me today.
